Here's my weekly report on what worked (and what didn't) for the week ending November 10th, 2019. The word and theme of magic, arose above all. But not as high as LOVE eventually did.
It was an intense week revolving around a 3-day trip to Lisbon for Web Summit, representing OurNet as Community Builder and 'Town Crier. We made this globally-renowned occasion the launch-pad for our new promotional video, which really seems to be making an impact. It's working! What with 300+ views as I write, the great creation of Francisco Power, who incidentally delivered a superb magic show for my son who celebrated his 8th birthday last weekend.
CEO Michael Brodie and I are not your standard start-up guys. With over 120 years life experience between us (see 'Grandfathers in The Incubator') and 'long teeth', we tend to take an unusual, un-rushed approach to building our 'community-focused social network', eschewing the tech industry-standard hype and leaning much more into intuition, serendipity and magic.
For Web Summit, this turned out to be truly magical. It worked. We appeared to summon up the people we wanted to meet, including Scott from New York, Henry from Montreal and those other kindred spirits from Berlin - ODE. Focusing on the end result works. Allowing works. Following the quieter inklings works.
On Monday, Vinny and I recorded another live show, which was 'perfectly' interrupted by technological problems. We chose to let it be and not be attached to our expectations. That worked. Hear our recording, and the archive here.
That same evening, I screwed up the A-I-R Team's live show launch with poor preparation, yet again decided not to catch a lift with the drama and stress; regrouped and re-started a good show with lots of lovely interaction. I think it's working.
Underpinning the week is the #poweroffoww check-in call (more here). I thought, at first, that this wasn't working so well: lots of drift away from intention, action and reflection, with more of a space for openness and sharing. So today, a remix into a proposal for TWO groups:
1: The current group evolving into a (cheeky) chappy check-in with emphasis on daily, non-intense or result-focused reflection (which is the bit that is really working - these guys are very generous with their hearts), and...
2. An accelerator for working weekdays with early, concise check-in detailing intention, action and reflection in less than 3 minutes with a results focus
On Friday, it was a pleasure to record podcast interviews with Jaki King and Suzy Williamson - both extraordinary women, making inspiring contributions to the world from their own experience, which REALLY works.
It was a delight to decompress at a new beach discovery on Friday afternoon with the family. That always seems to work!
And for the BIG finish, the BIG reveal...
My anger was getting up with Mrs M as the weekend progressed. Cutting a long story short the female demand 'program' that I run where nothing will ever be good enough, showed its ugly face. This shitty habit, installed in early life, has ruined many relationships, wreaked havoc. It affects my relationship with my grown-up daughters.
Interestingly, what was once a sulky withdrawal (what is sulking, but quiet anger?) has emerged as out and out expression of anger. Self-snookered, I appropriate rage upon the projection screen of my dysfunctional though processes, AKA my dear wife (and also our pet cats!).
I'm not proud of it and any levity sensed here is the relief of revelation. I am emerging from my self-created, self-judging prison of doom, into the light of intelligent processing and management. It feels good to to have the warmth of that sunny consciousness on my increasingly less-burdened shoulders. That level of insight and love really works, and I thank Louisa for holding the line of love for me.
I know - in the past - many others tried to love me despite my withdrawal, and I'm sorry I didn't respond (literally) in kind. I couldn't see it then. The cave of self-pity and harsh judgement didn't and doesn't work. Love works, light shone on dark, hurt places works.
It was an intense week revolving around a 3-day trip to Lisbon for Web Summit, representing OurNet as Community Builder and 'Town Crier. We made this globally-renowned occasion the launch-pad for our new promotional video, which really seems to be making an impact. It's working! What with 300+ views as I write, the great creation of Francisco Power, who incidentally delivered a superb magic show for my son who celebrated his 8th birthday last weekend.
CEO Michael Brodie and I are not your standard start-up guys. With over 120 years life experience between us (see 'Grandfathers in The Incubator') and 'long teeth', we tend to take an unusual, un-rushed approach to building our 'community-focused social network', eschewing the tech industry-standard hype and leaning much more into intuition, serendipity and magic.
For Web Summit, this turned out to be truly magical. It worked. We appeared to summon up the people we wanted to meet, including Scott from New York, Henry from Montreal and those other kindred spirits from Berlin - ODE. Focusing on the end result works. Allowing works. Following the quieter inklings works.
On Monday, Vinny and I recorded another live show, which was 'perfectly' interrupted by technological problems. We chose to let it be and not be attached to our expectations. That worked. Hear our recording, and the archive here.
That same evening, I screwed up the A-I-R Team's live show launch with poor preparation, yet again decided not to catch a lift with the drama and stress; regrouped and re-started a good show with lots of lovely interaction. I think it's working.
Underpinning the week is the #poweroffoww check-in call (more here). I thought, at first, that this wasn't working so well: lots of drift away from intention, action and reflection, with more of a space for openness and sharing. So today, a remix into a proposal for TWO groups:
1: The current group evolving into a (cheeky) chappy check-in with emphasis on daily, non-intense or result-focused reflection (which is the bit that is really working - these guys are very generous with their hearts), and...
2. An accelerator for working weekdays with early, concise check-in detailing intention, action and reflection in less than 3 minutes with a results focus
On Friday, it was a pleasure to record podcast interviews with Jaki King and Suzy Williamson - both extraordinary women, making inspiring contributions to the world from their own experience, which REALLY works.
It was a delight to decompress at a new beach discovery on Friday afternoon with the family. That always seems to work!
And for the BIG finish, the BIG reveal...
My anger was getting up with Mrs M as the weekend progressed. Cutting a long story short the female demand 'program' that I run where nothing will ever be good enough, showed its ugly face. This shitty habit, installed in early life, has ruined many relationships, wreaked havoc. It affects my relationship with my grown-up daughters.
Interestingly, what was once a sulky withdrawal (what is sulking, but quiet anger?) has emerged as out and out expression of anger. Self-snookered, I appropriate rage upon the projection screen of my dysfunctional though processes, AKA my dear wife (and also our pet cats!).
I'm not proud of it and any levity sensed here is the relief of revelation. I am emerging from my self-created, self-judging prison of doom, into the light of intelligent processing and management. It feels good to to have the warmth of that sunny consciousness on my increasingly less-burdened shoulders. That level of insight and love really works, and I thank Louisa for holding the line of love for me.
I know - in the past - many others tried to love me despite my withdrawal, and I'm sorry I didn't respond (literally) in kind. I couldn't see it then. The cave of self-pity and harsh judgement didn't and doesn't work. Love works, light shone on dark, hurt places works.
Yes the wow in #foww!
ReplyDeleteWow#2. Deep stuff. Also very brave to out yourself.
ReplyDeleteHi Suzy, just seen your comment. Thank you. I'm not sure what else to do as a writer and explorer of the (optimum) human experience. How did you find it, may I ask? And what works for you?
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